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WHY SHOULD YOU FEEL YOUR FEELINGS?


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Hi gorgeous you,


There are a lot of big feelings about at the moment - have you noticed? Many of us are feeling it all, and at the same time, holding it all in, and just trying to keep going.


Energy needs to flow, and emotions are the same - they need to be felt, so that they can be released.


It can be really confusing - you know you're supposed to think 'positively', but it's hard when you're feeling bad. 


Perhaps you think that you shouldn't be having negative thoughts or emotions - because that will create a negative reality, right? (myth!)


Maybe you feel guilty for feeling bad, because technically, there's nothing wrong with you. (Another myth!)


So, instead of simply allowing your feelings, what happens? You do whatever you can to feel better as quickly as possible. You tell yourself you're a positive person, other people are worse off, get it together, etc.


You basically run from your feelings.


And this seems like a good plan - but it's usually a temporary fix that only leads to even more bad feelings later.


All too often it involves distracting ourselves, or numbing with food, alcohol, drugs, doom-scrolling - or that socially acceptable pastime of 'keeping busy'.


If your positive thinking regime doesn't allow for the natural, healthy flow of human emotions, (including feeling bad sometimes) then it's just a fancy way of keeping a 'stiff upper lip'. 


Whay should you feeel your feelings? Because emotions need to flow - which means that they need to be:


  • Acknowledged (I'm feeling sad/angry/lost/frightened)

  • Accepted (It's ok that I feel this feeling. I'm still me).

  • Felt (doesn't require any thought, just feeling).


If we don't accept, feel and express our yuckier emotions, then they get backed up, and the pressure builds, which leads to an explosion of emotion - panic attacks, losing your temper, burnout, etc.


But let me reassure you - feeling your negative emotions, does NOT create a negative reality - IF you allow them to flow and be released. 


It doesn't have to be a big deal - the more you do this, the quicker it goes. In fact, it's MORE likely to be a big deal, if you resist it.


Emotions don't need to be denied - and they also don't need to be nurtured or obsessed over. We're not talking about lying in bed for days, wailing and feeling sorry for yourself.


If you can see them for what they are - just passing weather - then you don't need to be afraid of a little anger, or grief, or sorrow, or shame. 


If you can ride the waves of your emotional ups and downs without judging them, or making them MEAN anything about you, then you don't get stuck there. 


It's just a feeling, and it passes.


So the next question is - HOW? How do you allow emotions to flow, without getting overwhelmed?


Well - you can simply sit quietly, allow the feelings to come up, keep breathing through it, cry if you need to, and allow it to pass. This can take as little as 20 minutes.


You can take yourself to the page and scribble out a few pages of rant, without judging whatever you write - and then shred it, rip it up, or burn it.


You can put on some music and allow yourself to feel the emotion in your body, and dance it out.


It really is that simple. 


But - if you're not sure where to start, or if you don't want to do it alone, then please try this healing meditation, Release Negative Emotions, to help guide you through it and gently support you while you feel.


This is a quick, peaceful and relaxing process - the exact process I take my clients through in session - so it's the closest thing to actually having a session with me.


And I promise you, it will be easy - far easier than you think. Whatever is unwanted can be released, leaving you feeling lighter, freer and deeply peaceful.


I've infused the recording with healing Reiki energy, so that you're supported on every level as you listen.


Download it instantly HERE - and let me know how you get on.


I absolutely know you can do this. You're a rock star.


Big love,


Sophie x








P.S. Dealing with negative emotions all by yourself is a tricky business. This meditation is a fabulous first step to allowing yourself to be supported. 





 
 
 

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